Your pain is deep, and it won't just go away.
It is also uniquely yours, because it is linked to some of your earliest life experiences.
Your call is to bring that pain home. As long as your wounded past remains foreign to your adult self, your pain will injure you as well as others. Yes, you have to incorporate your pain into your self and let it bear fruit in your heart and the hearts of others...
Taking up your cross means, first of all, befriending your wounds and letting them reveal to you your own truth.
There is great pain and suffering in the world. But the pain hardest to bear is your own.
~ Henri Nouwen