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Article: Aftermath of a Fight


"According to neuroscientist Evan Gordan, our brain is constantly scanning the world around us, asking: Is it safe or dangerous right now? With significant unresolved problems, it becomes nearly impossible to make the safe emotional connection necessary for a secure relationship. As a result, we often perpetuate insecurity in our relationship, even over things like a cat’s litter box, because we don’t feel safe enough to express our deeper, more vulnerable emotions like sadness, hurt, loneliness, fear of abandonment or rejection, and shame of not being “enough” or being “too much.” Instead, our partners see a different side of us. They see our anger, jealousy, resentment, and frustration. We hide our softer emotions behind a mask of the harder, more reactive emotions as our poor communication habits continue to wreak havoc on our emotional connection, making it harder for our partner to hear our longing for love and connection." ~ Kyle Benson


To read the full article, click this link:

https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-we-used-the-aftermath-of-a-fight-to-repair-our-relationship/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=blog&fbclid=IwAR02RDy_sv-X2Ir0PF53jftxtA3cvdV-FerooFcpLL9GB8fKsJY2NFV5YTY

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